Saturday I should be heading up to Chicago and hitting the H&M’s hard. There is one particular item that catches my eye. It is this jersey top that has horizontal, sequin stripes. It is part of “The Blues” campaign. This catches my eye and actually leads me into my discussion of masculinity vs. femininity that I have put off for so long, but I’m dying to have it. While I don’t know what the sleeves look like, I do want to buy it in a small enough size to see the length. If it isn’t too long, I can definitely pair it with a nice blue blazer, rolled up sleeves that I can’t get enough of, some jeans, and maybe some nice oxfords worn without socks. There are variations of course that I could wear this, but I really want it. Why can’t a male wear a sequin? Why must they be considered a feminine item?! I like to be flashy and I can certainly turn any feminine item and wear it as my own, or at least die trying, thank you.
While I’m not talking about Rupaul and the drag races in all of this fabulous land, I do want to make the argument on why a man isn’t normally allowed to wear womens wear. I have been of late taking an influence from womens wear and mixed it into menswear. I’ll wear a piece of costume jewelry here and there, mix a little glitter into the mix, and I have enough chutzpah to make me stand out in a crowd. I’m certainly not sliding down any magical rainbows on my unicorn tossing glitter from here to the alley Ke$ha stumbles out of in a drunken stupor, but I do appreciate a man pulling off feminine clothes, jewelry, etc. and having the confidence to do so. I don’t believe this necessarily has to be done so like Liberace, but honestly, why not? This isn’t just if a man can pull off a pink or not, people. I seriously wonder this all of the time.
For Halloween, I attempted to pull off stilettos for my Amy Winehouse costume. Hell, I worked them harder than any hooker on Sunset Blvd could. Turns out, it isn’t so hard to walk in heels. I also see their point for womens fashions and I see their beauty, but why are women only destined to wear such beauties? Why must they be the only ones that go through such pain to look so damn good? Fashions evolve, I know this, I wouldn’t dare wear a pair of JNCO Jeans from my youth and think of myself as sane, but men’s fashions have always derived from what women wore. In the 18th century and even before that, men were just as flamboyant and frivolous in attire that women had to keep up with them, going all out in ornateness and detail with raised pompadours and wigs and wide panniers in their gowns. Men weren’t nicknamed “dandies” without reason. Alas, times have changed and men have taken a more masculine approach in doing the “manly” work, etc. but times are changing and women have a general equal role as men.
Sometimes I’m confused at why there are these needs for minor differences. If I wanted to run out in a pair of YSL Tribute pumps or some sexy Louboutins paired with a skinny jean, who’s to stop me? I’m not saying I would or ever will, but who’s to say that image of me doing so is something negative and wrong? Marc Jacobs can come out in a skirt and blogger Bryanboy can wear a stunning necklace paired with a purse and heels and the general publics consensus would be that they’re different and would frown heavily upon such sightings. Well, I shun you general public. I think those instances are rightly fashionable and glamorous and I don’t need societal norms to come in to sway my opinions. I don’t need the excuses that he’s a designer or he’s a flamboyant fashion blogger to reason with me. I’m going to search those H&M racks for that jersey top and maybe some womens blazers and mix it with my menswear. I’ll be looking better than anyone else every time I go out. Hell, if any coal minor, blue-collared American wanted to wear a pair of stilettos to the local tavern, the man certainly can work that, and I end that with three snaps in a “z” pattern. At the least, that image is something that is laughable.
Androgyny is also part of this debate I have. Women have always worked the androgynous look the best. Yves Saint Laurent pioneered the pantsuit for women and women have ever since have been influenced by menswear and add it to their wardrobe at all levels. I feel it’s a rarity to see androgynous males. Someone like David Bowie comes to mind, but the flamboyancy he had/has and that many rockers possess is still there. I’ll continue to add pieces womens clothing into my wardrobe, but I try to add something to counteract that. It’s all in how you do it and the confidence you bring to the table.
Now I add a conclusion to this, because I’ll continue typing into the wee morning hours and this will never stop chugging along in my mind. I’ll add more blog posts about this subject from time to time, because I’ll always be thinking about these things as my fashion sense evolves. I like to experiment with such things and will be doing so ladies and gentlemen. Let’s see where this catwalk take us, please.